If I marry a Hmong girl I will definitely have BAD culture shock because I am not Hmong, I don't really speak Hmong (I learned a couple phrases) and I don't know what's appropriate to do in Hmong culture. One possible way to get around this would be to live with the Hmong people for several years and learn about their way of life. If they don't marry outside their own race, then that is very good on them for wanting to preserve their culture and legacy. I'm sure if I spoke their language I would be able to impress them and they might accept me as one of their own. Don't expect this with Thais, though. They will always call you "farang" this "farang" that no matter how much Thai you can speak, read or write.

If I marry a regular Lao girl I will not experience culture shock to the same degree. I might experience a little, but I have lived with Lao people before for several years and I can understand them better. I understand most Lao customs, though definitely not all. I guess I would have some "baby shocks" to deal with if I married a Lao girl.

Even though Thais seem very westernized/modernized their culture still remains, and anyone marrying them who is not familiar with Thai culture will also experience culture shock. I think this reigns true for all Asians, whether it be Japanese, Chinese, Korean, Thai, Lao or Hmong.

The tricky part is that what is acceptable to one group could be considered offensive to the next, so you have to change your act depending on who you talk to. Overall, it's a great learning experience to live with other cultures.

It is true. Thai society is a very materialistic society. Anyways, I don't want to get married right now, maybe when I'm 25-30. I just wanted to ask this question because I'm curious about the experiences of others.

Yes ba dac, I make weekly runs to the Golden Triangle for some premium stuff. It makes reading idiotic comments bearable.

"Hmm your wife spent 1 yrs in the western world and she more western.I spent my entire life here and i'm more proud being Asian. Dude you smoking crack over there ?"

I have no idea what the relevancy of this is to what I wrote. She is probably one of the strongest supporter of Lao culture in the country. She's lived/worked in most of the provinces. She's not afraid to get in the government's face and also spends a lot of time living with the poorest of the poor trying to teach them how to help themselves.

She's more western in that she doesn't just sit around and complain but actually does something about injustice which is something most Lao or ASIAN people are afraid to do because of their preoccupation with "saving face".

ba dac wrote on 26^th Jan, 2014 at 2:20pm:


Oh, seems like a good idea. I would stab her too, but not with a knife. I would stab her in between the legs with this thing I have between my legs.

Vietnamese culture's good, because the women usually stay virgins until marriage, although I can't speak Vietnamese.
I don't like speaking English to Asian people, I prefer to speak their language to them. When you speak to them in English it feels you aren't really connecting to them as much as you could if you spoke their language. Maybe I could learn Vietnamese, it doesn't seem too hard.

Marrying a virgin girl is very important in Vietnamese and other Asian cultures. Growing up in America maybe one couldn't understand how they think.
Every guy wants to be the first guy to enter her, not the second, third, fourth, fifth or hundredth 

Although if she was previously married it would be ok if she's not a virgin. Depends how she lost it.

Innocence is a precious thing. Who wouldn't want an innocent wife? It makes all the difference to us men. I'm a family-loving guy and I think of the woman as being the mother figure in the home and not a hooker and such.

People say that if you love her it doesn't matter, but that's just an opinion. To each his own.

Anyways, for me it's important to be with a virgin girl, but I respect your opinions if you think otherwise.

How old are you? were you born in usa or Lao

In Luang Prabang, there are a lot of foreign NGOs or companies representatives making improvements for local or nearby people by doing community projects or business. I think the famous one is German's GTZ, making a tons of scientific researchs and facilitating communications of local people to outside.

I do find foreigner's marriage with local people, still doing community improvements for locals.They are good too. I dont think these foreigners look down locals, some are keen to improve local living standards. They got married because it is time.  Of course, some foreigners stay there to become some sort of brokers between companies and government agencies or villages as I am often approached to bring talents to work there.

For me, there is no traditional girl to married. You love her, city girl or country gril, then comes marriage.

That is life!

In plain words, you need to find a postletter girl in 5 or 7 years? not a facebook girl.

Buk Nut wrote on 28^th Jan, 2014 at 7:54am: