Admin Saovaluck wrote on 13
th May, 2011 at 10:36pm:
Well, I don't consider you Lao, if you weren't taught to vai, and you have never vaied to "ordinary" people besides Buddhist monks.
I've never seen ANY Lao raised in NZ
vai.Admin Saovaluck wrote on 13
th May, 2011 at 10:36pm:
I vai sometimes. Like, if my parents/relatives introduced me to their friends, it's natural to vai to them because they are seniors.
Whenever I talk to my father's friends, I treat them as I would my own. I even slap them on their shoulders after a joke ot two (I know this is
khaluum in our culture, but they don't seem to mind.
)
I used to stoop when walking past elders, too. After my adolescent years, I just thought:
to hell with this. I no longer go out of my way to 'impress' others; only in 'formal' situations e.g. at a Lao function/wedding etc. then do those conservative mannerisms come out.
How often would you
vai in a day? When you
vai to your parents's friends, is that just a one off? Like, when you first meet them? Also, do you have to call them 'Uncle' or 'Aunty'?