I think your uncle is a little too much to drink when you rise that subject with you. Maybe it's time for you to visit you own ancestor birth-place. Backpacking would be an eye open for you. You never know, you may learn something about the real Laos...and the people.

"Reading from the text will never beat the real thing"  Take that chance, go for it....Laos do need employ someone and also someone job would be secure because of your dollars.

Admin Saovaluck wrote on 9^th Mar, 2011 at 4:56pm:


Please read the question properly before answering. My uncle has only hit his wife in the heat of an argument. He doesn't "bully" her  on an everyday basis. They "made-up" a very long time ago. All is forgiven. My aunty was in the room while he was relaying this to me, too. He also said: "The cops don't really". They too must know that "custom" overrules the law.
Is it true, admin', that even if this behaviour is seen by the "law", that they will only give the offender token warnings? Thay don't really want to get involved do they?

Laos is a conservative culture and men rule. Just like middle east, but not as bad. I think domestic violence is tolerance. You can't just go to polices and put your husband in jail for hitting you. Most women will keep quite. In America women have more right. If you have kids you'll pay child supported and go to jail right away if you put your hand on a women. You can be jail just for threaten somebody. There's rule of law and very very strict. No one is above the law here rich and powerful, celebrity, politicians, millionaire sometime go to jail for domestic violence. You'll hear it all over the news.

Admin Saovaluck wrote on 9^th Mar, 2011 at 6:50pm:


Its our culture. I don't want people to know my family business either. Its should be solve through family, between husband and wife first. Unless its very very serous. In U.S sometime the women will call police right way and sometime they lies to get the men in trouble. That's why US is very safe and great place to live. There's lot of rule, law and regulation. For example fishing in public place you need get to a license. If you need to fixed your house sometime you need a permit from the city. Some Lao guy joking around saying there's more freedom in Laos then in U.S because there're so many law and regulation here.

Admin Saovaluck wrote on 9^th Mar, 2011 at 8:05pm:


So, it's true then, that this type of behaviour is tolerated, if not accepted by the law?

Admin Saovaluck wrote on 10^th Mar, 2011 at 4:51am:


I'm not talking about the "silence"; I mean the "law". If no-one knows: then no-one knows. Do cops in Laos not take an oath to "serve and protect"?

Admin Saovaluck wrote on 10^th Mar, 2011 at 5:23am:


Speaking hypothetically now, are you......................................ummmmmmm.